Embrace What You Fear

"I’m longing for emotional depth and trying to practise coming from love instead of lack. But I keep attracting unavailable men. Today I tried your advice about smiling when triggered – it released tension. But is it wise to be so open when I know this longing is my sense of lack? Rupert says: ‘Are you completely available? No. Is it any surprise you attract people who validate your own sense of yourself? It’s not them who are unavailable – it’s you. The universe is mirroring something in you. Like someone who isn’t in touch with their fear dreaming they’re chased by a tiger – the tiger is an outer representation of an inner state. You don’t dream of unavailable men; it’s happening in the waking state, but it’s the same principle. What to do? Become aware of this fear. Don’t take the Vedantic path of turning away – take the Tantric path. Turn towards it. In the Tantric approach, they speak of devouring your emotions. You welcome what is most distasteful, you befriend it. Because what you are on the inside and what the universe is on the outside are the same system. One day you’ll meet a man who’s completely available – not by chance, but because you have changed inside.’"

From event 27 February - 01 March, 2026 The Nature of Consciousness – Online Weekend Retreat at Home 27 February–1 March 2026

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